How to Set Goals and Resolutions
and Achieve them

2 Critical Steps for Achieving Your Goals that You Could be Missing

Resolutions are not just for New Year’s. We are constantly making resolutions, goals, and setting intentions. It just so happens that the new year is a time when we put a LOT of attention on the topic. It is the season of review and resolve. And the big question I have is... do your resolutions stick? To you set goals and achieve them? In truth, the odds are against us. According to research from the University of Scranton, 92% of us fail. And I have a feeling I may know why. It is a little-addressed yet critical factor that could be hanging us all up. Read on for two steps to help you beat the odds and set a goal that succeeds!


Let go of what no longer serves you

It is no surprise that when we want something new we have to give something up. Want a new, smaller house? You gotta down-size your belongings. Want a slimmer figure? You gotta give up those treats. The idea is that we have to release the objects, thoughts, or behaviors that are getting in the way of achieving our goals. Out with the old, in with the new!

Melissa Griffin describes it this way:


“ cannot achieve your goals if you’re holding on to your old life. You cannot achieve something you’ve never done before if you’re too busy doing things the way you have always done them, right? In other words…your new life is going to cost you your old one.”


OK, let’s unpack this with an example.

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A major goal of mine is to make this business sustainable. So, what in my current life do I have to let go of to make that happen? Late mornings? Check!

The idea that there is someone out there who has the answers, knows what I need to do to be successful, knows the right person to give me the break I desire? Yup, all of that.

My sense of self-worth has to transform, too. I have LET GO of thinking I do not deserve it, am not worthy, must apologize, must hide, be rescued, and do not have what it takes. All of those ideas and stories have to go.

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2 Steps for Success with Your Goals and Resolutions


When you think about your goals, ask yourself what you need to let go of to make them happen. Are you ready to let go? There can be emotions attached to the things you need to let go of, be they physical objects, ways of thinking, or behaviors. So, try these two steps to help you let go and go after your goal!

  1. Saying goodbye can be easier if you do it with gratitude. Do this by creating a ceremony. Light a candle, burn some incense, play some chimes. Whatever makes it special for you. Then, on a small piece of paper, write the name of what you are releasing. Thank it out loud. Then burn the paper (safely) to release it.
  2. Another way to help you be more successful is to employ visualization. F1 drivers do it, so why not give it a try? Say you want to be fit and you decide to join a gym. Give yourself a greater chance of success by imagining your new, fit self: all the things you can do, the way you feel, how people look at you. Envisioning your end goal can give you the incentive you need to get yourself out of bed a 4:30am with a “YES, I am going to DO THIS!”
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If you do these two things, your likelihood of success will be SO MUCH HIGHER. Trust is easy to get lazy and fall into old patterns...easy and tempting. It is familiar and comfortable. So be strong. Say goodbye with love to the old, and say hello with your powerful imagination to what you are creating.



What do you think?


  • Stan Rintz
    January 3, 2019 Reply

    This is a great exercise, thank you for sharing! Also loved seeing Unstoppable in the background! Happy New Year!

    • Larissa Davis
      April 30, 2019 Reply

      Thanks for the comment, Stan!

    • Larissa Davis
      January 18, 2019 Reply

      Thanks Stan, glad you like the exercise. It is so exciting to see you making changes and pushing yourself past the limits that have kept you from being the amazing person you are!!! Keep rockin' it!

  • Lynda
    December 30, 2018 Reply

    thank you for that... made me think too! Think l almost want to let go of the same things as you😱😂 Also to stop letting my childhood ruin my life still !

    • Larissa Davis
      April 30, 2019 Reply

      Lynda, have you read anything by Louise Hay? She has some great exercises for moving past old resentments and childhood stuff.

    • Larissa Davis
      January 18, 2019 Reply

      Lynda, YES!!!! It is so amazing how much we soak up in our youth. Even a "good childhood" can leave us with beliefs that limit us immeasurably. Another bit to consider, which I only recently was reminded of is acceptance. Looking at where we are without judgement or negative emotion. Just accepting where we are so we can move forward. xoxoxox

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